A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Lulu, were never allowed to do:. Attend a sleepover Have a play date Be in a school play Complain about not being in a school play Watch TV or play computer games Choose their extracurricular activities Get any grade less than an A Not be the No 1 student in every subject except gym and drama Play any instrument other than the piano or violin Not play …. Get The International Pack for free for your first 30 days for unlimited Smartphone and Tablet access.
The diametric opposite of the Open-Minded Parent is the Education Mama, a mother and it's usually, but not always a mother who is obsessed with her children's education and pushes them to succeed academically, no matter the cost. She will shell out thousands of dollars to send her kids to private school or move to another town with good schools, and her kids will be forced to surrender their social lives in the pursuit of good grades Cram School may be involved. And God help her kids if any of them gets anything less than an A. If her kids still have some free time after studying enough to get perfect grades, then she will also force them to master a musical instrument almost always the violin , and then keep tacking on more extracurricular activities until there is no free time left. Of course, this is all to make her kids seem more impressive to the Dean of Admissions at whatever Ivy League university she has picked out for them. While it is a problem in many countries around the world, this trope is especially pervasive in East Asian families, due to the existence of the Imperial examination , a standardized test you could take in China that was absolutely necessary for a position as an Obstructive Bureaucrat , one of the cushiest, most respected and most well-paying jobs then available. The topic of the test was the writings of and about the great philosopher Confucius , meaning that theoretically anyone who could read had a shot at a government job.